A considered, experienced approach to complex relationship situations
My expertise combines lived experience and professional training, giving me a strong understanding of relationship breakdown. I support individuals through some of life’s most demanding transitions, helping them think clearly and move forward with confidence and control.
My story
My work as a relationship and divorce coach is rooted in both personal experience and professional training.
Having navigated my own relationship breakdown, I understand firsthand how complex, disorientating, and emotionally demanding this period can be, particularly in situations involving high conflict, emotional strain, or abusive dynamics.
What led me to this work was not only the experience itself, but the realisation that with the right support, communication techniques and perspective, it is possible to move through even the most challenging circumstances with greater clarity and strength.
I chose to formally train and build a professional coaching practice so that I could offer others the kind of structured, thoughtful support that is often missing at this time.
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Why work with me?
Clients choose to work with me because I offer more than emotional support. I provide a calm, objective space alongside clear, practical guidance — helping you step back from overwhelm, think clearly, and approach your situation in a more considered way.
With a deep understanding of relationship breakdown, including high-conflict and emotionally complex situations, I bring both empathy and structure to the work. My focus is on helping you make sense of what is happening, understand your options, and move forward in a way that feels considered and in control.
I work from where you are, at your pace — offering insight, practical strategies, and clear thinking to support informed decision-making. My role is not to push you towards a particular outcome, but to guide you so that you feel more grounded, confident, and able to make the right decisions for yourself.
This is not about quick fixes, but about building clarity, confidence, and a stronger sense of direction.
Background & Experience
I am a Certified Relationship & Divorce Master Coach with specialist training in domestic abuse. I am passionate about ongoing professional development and continuing to deepen my understanding of relationship dynamics, emotional wellbeing, healthy relationships, and emotional resilience.
I am regularly trusted by professionals and referred within legal and advisory networks. I also have particular experience supporting clients where neurodivergence is a factor within the relationship, allowing for more nuanced and tailored support where needed.
I am proud to support the local charity Best Mates, where I work as one of their specialist experts, supporting individuals with relationship challenges. I was also honoured to be named runner-up in the Female Entrepreneur of the Year 2025 at the South West Business and Community Awards, recognising the growth of my work and the impact it has had.
What my clients say
“Vanessa has been an invaluable source of support during an incredibly stressful and difficult breakup.
When I first met her, I felt anxious and overwhelmed, with no clear direction. She quickly understood my situation and provided both practical guidance and emotional support. She is approachable, non-judgmental, and has a natural ability to put you at ease. Each session has helped me take meaningful steps forward, and I’ve made more progress than I thought possible in a short time. I can’t recommend her highly enough.”
What my clients say
"I was incredibly anxious and emotionally overwhelmed when I first met Vanessa. I didn't really know which way to turn. She quickly assessed my situation and was able to give me both practical advice and the emotional support that I needed. The sessions with Vanessa have helped me to become more aware, really understand, listen, and is able to dig deep with me and my limiting ."
What my clients say
"The sessions with Vanessa have helped me to become more aware of myself and for me to self-reflect. Vanessa really understands, listens and is able to dig deep with me and my limiting beliefs in order for me to gain my power back… Absolutely love our sessions."
What my clients say
“Vanessa has been a guiding light in the new world of dating for me. Having not dated since I was 19, I felt completely unsure how to proceed. She helped me define what I truly want in a partner and identify the key qualities that matter most, which made navigating potential relationships much clearer and more intentional. She also helped me better understand relationship dynamics, which has had a positive impact not only on dating, but on my wider relationships too — including with my children and in reflecting on my past marriage.”
What my clients say
“The first step to seeking help can feel daunting, but from Vanessa’s very first email, it was clear I was in very good hands. I didn’t even know divorce coaches existed, but now I’m very glad they do.”
What my clients say
“I would highly recommend Vanessa — she has the human touch. Despite having been through an abusive relationship herself, she does not make it about her and instead brings a wealth of empathy and genuine understanding. I felt heard and understood, which was crucial during such a difficult time. Not only was I listened to, but I was also guided towards a path forward. I have no hesitation in recommending her to anyone in need of support.”
What my clients say
“Vanessa was a lifesaver for me when I was in the midst of such personal confusion. Her time and guidance were invaluable.”
What my clients say
“I highly recommend Vanessa. She is incredibly caring, supportive, and I felt genuinely understood from the very first session. What sets her apart is her willingness to offer real input and practical advice — her guidance feels active, focused, and purposeful. I made more progress in a couple of sessions than I expected in weeks. Her insight is grounding, reassuring, and incredibly effective. I’m so grateful for her support and wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her to anyone feeling lost or unsure how to move forward.”
Take the next step when you feel ready
Relationship challenges, separation, divorce, or domestic abuse can be some of the most complex and emotionally demanding life transitions to navigate. An initial conversation offers a calm, confidential space to begin making sense of your situation and explore how I can support you.